Are you feeling lost, stressed and unable to focus — chasing after an illusive feeling of “It will get better soon” but never reaching it.
Do you have areas in your life where you want to do more but you end up feeling like there is never enough time or energy to spare?
Are you worried about the future and feeling guilty for not doing more to protect it for our children?
Are you walking a path that doesn’t feel like it’s truly yours?
I was, too.
I am Christin, and in 2017, I had a high-paying, high-profile job that involved a lot of travel. At the time, I was exactly where I wanted to be in my career—leading a department, managing major accounts, earning recognition and status for my work. I was surrounded by great colleagues, the job was challenging, fulfilling, and I enjoyed it but I worked hard and spent my evenings thinking about work.
At the time, my children were seven and five.
My husband, Daniel, and I were constantly optimizing—trying to fit everything in. Work, kids, housework, cooking, after-school activities, friends, family, and our own hobbies.
Week after week, we made it all work. The puzzle pieces always fit.
My life looked great on paper but it didn’t feel good to me.
Because I wasn’t enjoying the time I spent with my children.
Whenever I had a break, all I wanted was to be alone—to carve out just a little time and space for myself. It wasn’t their fault. I just wasn’t in the right frame of mind to truly appreciate the people around me, my family.
One Sunday evening, I turned to Daniel and said:
“If I continue like this, I know I will regret it.”
And that was it.
You can’t unring a bell.
I was tired. So, so tired. I had been squeezing too much living into my life for a very long time, which made me feel like I was bursting at the seams.
I was reaching my goals but had forgotten what I really wanted. I was successful by all external measurements but I was losing myself in the process.
And I had lost my navigation system, my curiosity and my natural drive.
I realized there were serious gaps in my education when it came to building a good life.
At this point, I realized I had to make some major changes in my life so I started to talk to my friends, read and listen to podcasts but it just made me more confused.
The messages I got were contradictory.
We have to acknowledge our feelings to be able to navigate in life but at the same time we should not let our feelings dictate our lives. Feelings are just there one minute and then they are gone the next.
So, should we or should we not listen to what our feelings are telling us?
To live well, we need both the ability to act wisely in the moment – to be there and see and experience what is going on around us. At the same time, we need to make plans for the future, to have a sense of direction that gives our lives meaning. But if we only live in the future trying to reach our goals we lose sight of that life happens now. Today.
And we need capabilities to handle our previous experiences so that we learn from them but are not dragged down by them.
So, should we make plans for the future and follow the plan, or should we focus on the moment?
The people close to us are the most important thing in our lives but we should all have full time jobs, earn a lot of money, go to the gym and have close friends. It’s important to prepare home cooked meals for our family each day and have a beautiful home.
So, should we spend time with the people we love or should we do all these other things. The day only has 24 hours after all. How should we spend our time?
I began a quest to find answers to some fundamental questions.
Why did I end up here?
What does a good life feel like?
What tools or knowledge do I need to create a life that truly feels good?
How do I change?
I became a detective on a mission.
How to live a life that feels good and meaningful both today and when I look back on my life.
How do I make sure that I have enough space in my life so that I am able to feel what’s right.
Today. Society is the space where I share what I have discovered. It’s my story.
I am not a psychologist or a neurosurgeon, but I have had the opportunity to pause, reflect, and explore. To test, change, choose, fail, and try again.
What I’ve discovered is this.
When life is unfolding, we don’t have time to bring to mind the latest science on a subject or recall theories on child psychology.
What we need is to have access to our inner navigation system, an instinctive understanding of the right thing to do in each moment of each day.
We need some structure that helps us listen to our own inner voice—so we can build the life that we truly want.
In my experience there is no better word for it than wisdom.
And what I am talking about is the kind of wisdom that sits in our bones.
The kind that is intuitive and helps us do the right thing in the moment—or, when we fall short, guides us to reflect, take responsibility, and adjust.
What I write here are the things I wish I had known.
The wisdom I wish to pass on to my children.
My own manual on how to live a life that feels good today—so that each “today” becomes a “yesterday” we look back on with gratitude and a “tomorrow” we look forward to with hope.
It’s not rocket science. Most of the time, it’s just logical common sense—things you already know deep down but sometimes need a reminder of.
If you want to live a life you won’t regret, it starts today.
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